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Musings... Work it, Baby! Musings.... You are not alone....
Too
often people sacrifice what they love, who they are, what they're
about, what they want, for something else or someone else.
They put their lives on hold, figuring that they will have more time, more money or whatever, to pursue their dreams later.
I
don't know where that idea began, but it is false and stupid.
Certainly there are some divergences that are worthwhile and directed,
giving the person more information, experience or even credibility to
pursue what they want. But, unfortunately, more often than not, they
set aside their true love for some other ideal.
Let's say that
it's money. "If I just do THIS for a while, I will have money to
pursue THAT all I want, later." The thing is, that by the time you
realize that you're not making the money you expected or you just can't
stand doing whatever "THIS" is, and you're depressed about not living a
satisfying life -- so much time has gone by.
And truly, if you
had just stayed on your track of doing what you love, pursuing your
dreams, you would be so much closer to your achievement and probably
much happier too!
Some people sacrifice their lives for
parenthood. I have always believed in portable children -- and mine
were! I also continued to work and pursue my dreams while being a
mother. There were times that I did sacrifice my dreams and pursue
someone else's, but that had less to do with children than it did with
spousing.
The point is, sacrificing any part of yourself is
usually unnecessary. You have to view yourself as worthy to have what
you want... that no else's life gets to trump yours. This is
particularly difficult for women because we are taught to sacrifice
what we want for the sake of children and husbands and even strangers.
Our job is to make sure others are happy, fed, satisfied, etc. This
has been bred into us like race horses. But when you find yourself,
and stand sure in your self-esteem, you can find your own happiness
and satisfaction.
I know there is the time of motherhood when
you give so much more of yourself to an infant. So, in that sense,
perhaps there is a time when you become unavailable or a lot less
available to yourself. BUT, it still depends on how you approach it.
You can give over a little more and still be solid in who you are. You
share that with your child and maintain a certain amount of autonomy,
which is good for both of you.
I know there is the time of the
entrepreneur when one just begs for money coming in, in order to pursue
that dream... And too many times, the entrepreneur grabs hold of
something, just because it has worked for someone else... perhaps
someone whose dream it really was... and they think that it will work
for them. They may even jump from thing to thing because nothing is
working and nothing is satisfying. The key is to focus on the true
intention, the true artistry and passion and follow that -- because all
the years of wasted time on things that really didn't hold the passion
could have been spent expanding and pursuing one's true goal and
passion. It would have been much more satisfying and much more
worthwhile financially.
Focusing on the true intention, true
artistry and passion means delving deeper and deeper into that,
whatever it is. There are so many avenues to explore for creating
revenue with one's passion. There is no shortage. It has been said,
"Where there's a will, there's a way!" That is a deep truth. The will
is behind the greatest success because when your will is strong, you
will never give up. You keep your dream in the forefront, always, and
then you work it, baby! You work it like crazy! You work the hell out
of that passion, that will. You work it as if it's the "other thing"
that will get you the money so you can go back to what you love. Only
it's so much better, so much more satisfying because it IS the THING
YOU LOVE.
Then you will see what happens....